Jamilia Williams: It Takes a Village

June 21, 2019 Tahlisha Dorsey 0 Comments

My name is Jamilia Williams and I’m a single mother of a two year old boy. My child was “unexpected “ so it was a shocker when I found out I was pregnant. Honestly my first thoughts was Abortion and I’ve contemplated this thought all the way up till it was time for my abortion. Surprise Surprise i didn’t go through with it, and I’m glad I didn’t… while I didn’t have any mental Illness before my pregnancy. It was really hard trying to get into the groove of being a mom…my child would often cry when I held him and will be perfectly fine if other family members decided to hold him. This affected deeply to the point where I didn’t want to be anywhere near him because he would cry. Well one day my mom notices and asked me if everything was ok. I told her I might have postpartum and she tells me I’m not allowed to be depressed and sent me outside to get me some fresh air..at the time it wasn’t the best advice but it was the only advice I had so I went with it. Honestly it has gotten better since that time so I won’t complain. Currently I haven’t been myself I don’t know if the weight of starting a career and being a full time mom is finally taking its toll on me, but I have noticed this change and has recently started seeing a therapist to help me cope and/or sort out all the emotional bagged I have held onto for the sake of my son I have to make sure I have mental clarity…As for my family they are my greatest support system if I did not have them by my side assisting me in caring and raising my kiddo, I honestly don’t know where I would be or even if I would have gave birth to Ronan…or even suggested adoption. The African proverb it takes a village to raise a child is a prime representation of me my child and my family. As for advice for mothers considering motherhood or is struggling with mental health issues that relates to motherhood is that your not alone. Don’t let social media think there is only way to become a mother or raise child(ren). If you realize that somethings has change within you congratulations you have taken the first step now seek help so you don’t have to resolve your battles alone. Always make time for yourself and don’t feel bad about it you play many roles so you need to recharge Play with you child(ren)they will remember it. And if you do right by your children and show them genuine love they will always love you.

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